My favorite word
Compassion is a word that’s thrown around a lot these days and for good reason. Just the mere act of saying the word may spark a good feeling. You may conjure up visions of people that might not be as fortunate as you living in poverty halfway across the world or a homeless person living on the streets nearby. As important as it is to send compassion to people in unfortunate situations it’s as important to use the same discernment in sending out compassion to those who are in our daily lives, especially ourselves.
For most of us the word can be difficult to even think about using when someone has wronged us in some way. Maybe you got dumped in a relationship, your boss belittles you in a meeting in front of your colleagues, your best friend starts dating your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend or you’ve been carrying resentment towards your parents that divorced 15 years earlier.
Whatever the case, your subsequent thoughts associated to a particular event or person might leave you feeling hurt, angry, judgmental or resentful for the emotional harm they have caused. It can be a very heavy burden carrying around that type of baggage for days, weeks, months and in some cases years.
In the end, we are the ones that end up suffering while the other person lives their life unbeknownst to the negativity we’re harboring. All of those emotions and feelings can be erased by way of compassion. It may take some getting used to but the next time someone triggers you or emotionally hurts you, take a deep breath and send that person love and compassion. Just from some self awareness and a subtle energy shift you will learn to show up without those feelings that once bogged you down and left you feeling depleted. In time you will be amazed how people will seemingly and mysteriously change for the better without you doing or saying anything. Go ahead, give it a try. - Troy